Sex before marriage?

faceless kiwi · 02-17-2003, 09:06 PM

Do u agree with it?
I wanted to get everyones views here.

I know some people who dont believe in sex before marriage, and not all of them are religious.
Just wanting to get everyones thoughts.

creedfan47a · 02-17-2003, 09:10 PM

I voted 'no', but that's just my personal values. I completely respect other peoples' decisions.

hotforscott · 02-17-2003, 09:19 PM

I think that most people do have sex before marriage. I mean, I did, but now that I am married, I completely understand why it is very important.

Lechium · 02-17-2003, 09:38 PM

What's wrong with it? I this as long as youre in love, and truly have feeling for that other person it's all good. Moreover it's normal.

2:hotforstapp can you please explain to me why it is so important? I'm a guy and I dont mind getting a non-virgin. My 1st girl was not one, and I didnt really care (well just a bit).

Bridge of Clay · 02-17-2003, 09:40 PM

I voted for no... but I´m not sure if when I get a serious relationship I´ll be able to control myself...

Wylde-Tremonti · 02-17-2003, 09:58 PM

I voted no.....I want my fisrt time to be with the one I'm absolutely going to spend the rest fo my life with.....I dont want my wife knowing I didn't wait for her....

Lechium · 02-17-2003, 10:00 PM

Isnt that insulting for woment to be though of as "spoiled goods" and such just because they are not virgins? That's archaic (sp?).

Turning down a good girl (or guy for that matter) just because she (he) had slept with someone else beforehand is just dumb, cuz you cant be passing on someone truly good. You should learn not to look back. Past is past.

JenRN · 02-17-2003, 10:00 PM

Well... I have mixed feelings about this. I feel it is great if you can refrain until marraige BUT it is hard sometimes like Marcos said! When you TRULEY love someone it is very hard to not let it get that far! I personally would not, and would refuse to be with a man who had multiple sex partners( I mean alot) You have to realize that not only are you sleeping with that person, you are also being exposed to all the other people that person was with before! I have been an AIDS educator to many youth before and yeah it is that bad, LITERALLY!!!! There is something about knowing you are the "only one" for that person that makes it beautiful. Plus if you are religious in any way, it is a sin. It is human nature to have strong sexual desires to be with someone you really love, but I guess it all depends on how you stand on many other aspects in your life! I just know how men look at a woman who has had multiple sex partners, they are looked at as a slut, and men well...... they are looked at like a STUD! I think whatever you decide for yourself is the best, don't let anyone sway you one way or another!

Tremontichik006 · 02-17-2003, 10:01 PM

i completly agree with u matt, i wouldnt want the guy i marry to know that i didnt wait for him either...

JenRN · 02-17-2003, 10:01 PM

Quote: Originally posted by TremontiWanaB
I voted no.....I want my fisrt time to be with the one I'm absolutely going to spend the rest fo my life with.....I dont want my wife knowing I didn't wait for her....

You are such a sweetie, she will indeed be a lucky woman!

Wylde-Tremonti · 02-17-2003, 10:04 PM

Quote: Originally posted by Lechium
<b>Isnt that insulting for woment to be though of as "spoiled goods" and such just because they are not virgins? That's archaic (sp?).

Turning down a good girl (or guy for that matter) just because she (he) had slept with someone else beforehand is just dumb, cuz you cant be passing on someone truly good. You should learn not to look back. Past is past. </b>

Are You directing that at me?.....i never said i wouldn't date someone who had sex....I mean I'm not gonna judge someone they did somethin i don't believe in....

creedfan47a · 02-17-2003, 10:04 PM

Quote: Originally posted by TremontiWanaB
I voted no.....I want my fisrt time to be with the one I'm absolutely going to spend the rest fo my life with.....I dont want my wife knowing I didn't wait for her....

Very true. I think it can be the best wedding present you can give!

JulieCitySlicker · 02-17-2003, 10:06 PM

I voted no cuz I'm waiting till I'm married

That shows your true commitment to the one that you marry, I don't like leftovers

I want a package that is just for me and has not been used by someone else first:P Plus it is the way God intented sex to be...with a married couple.

creedfan47a · 02-17-2003, 10:07 PM

YAY Julie! My words exactly!

Bridge of Clay · 02-17-2003, 10:07 PM

the thing is that when you have sex, 2 souls become 1. (read your Bible).

that´s why it´s more than just pleasure, it´s commitment. Sex is a blessed gift from God for mankind.

So, I think you should do it with the person that you´ll spend the rest of your life with, no 3rd parties involved.

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02-17-2003, 09:06 PM	#1
faceless kiwi USER INFO » Status: INK'ed Posts: 817 Joined: Sep 2002 Currently: Offline	Sex before marriage? Do u agree with it? I wanted to get everyones views here. I know some people who dont believe in sex before marriage, and not all of them are religious. Just wanting to get everyones thoughts. __________________ "You got the whole world listening But you got nothing to say. And as we gathered in the ashes Said "fire em up boys and let 'em go" They're making music for the masses Sliced up real thin for the radio. Now all that you took for granted Has been replaced. Replaced by an actor. And now that you're left with nothing but more of the same. Who do you think you are? Who do you think you are? You all sound the same, With nothing to say. We say your an actor!." PACIFIER- NOTHING

02-17-2003, 09:10 PM	#2
creedfan47a USER INFO » Status: Brother of Mine Posts: 6,507 Joined: Nov 2002 Currently: Offline	I voted 'no', but that's just my personal values. I completely respect other peoples' decisions. __________________ Married my man in November 2004 ...

02-17-2003, 09:19 PM	#3
hotforscott USER INFO » Status: Shed My Skin Posts: 7,130 Joined: Apr 2003 Currently: Offline	I think that most people do have sex before marriage. I mean, I did, but now that I am married, I completely understand why it is very important. __________________ Got a new Papillon puppy named Ajax!

02-17-2003, 09:38 PM	#4
Lechium USER INFO » Status: Bound and Tied Posts: 2,293 Joined: Feb 2003 Currently: Offline	What's wrong with it? I this as long as youre in love, and truly have feeling for that other person it's all good. Moreover it's normal. 2:hotforstapp can you please explain to me why it is so important? I'm a guy and I dont mind getting a non-virgin. My 1st girl was not one, and I didnt really care (well just a bit). __________________ You bet I look good on the dance floor.

02-17-2003, 09:40 PM	#5
Bridge of Clay USER INFO » Status: Tree of Wisdom Posts: 8,025 Joined: Sep 2002 Currently: Offline	I voted for no... but I´m not sure if when I get a serious relationship I´ll be able to control myself... __________________ .:: "If people don't like guitar solos... then they're frikkin' stupid!" - Mark Tremonti ::.

02-17-2003, 09:58 PM	#6
Wylde-Tremonti USER INFO » Status: Said Eyes Posts: 4,357 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	I voted no.....I want my fisrt time to be with the one I'm absolutely going to spend the rest fo my life with.....I dont want my wife knowing I didn't wait for her.... __________________ NOT OF THIS WORLD "See to it that no-one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ." Colossians 2:8 My Solo Project's Myspace: Tongues Of Fire Jesus + Guitars = Life

02-17-2003, 10:00 PM	#7
Lechium USER INFO » Status: Bound and Tied Posts: 2,293 Joined: Feb 2003 Currently: Offline	Isnt that insulting for woment to be though of as "spoiled goods" and such just because they are not virgins? That's archaic (sp?). Turning down a good girl (or guy for that matter) just because she (he) had slept with someone else beforehand is just dumb, cuz you cant be passing on someone truly good. You should learn not to look back. Past is past. __________________ You bet I look good on the dance floor.

02-17-2003, 10:00 PM	#8
JenRN USER INFO » Status: Tree of Wisdom Posts: 7,519 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Well... I have mixed feelings about this. I feel it is great if you can refrain until marraige BUT it is hard sometimes like Marcos said! When you TRULEY love someone it is very hard to not let it get that far! I personally would not, and would refuse to be with a man who had multiple sex partners( I mean alot) You have to realize that not only are you sleeping with that person, you are also being exposed to all the other people that person was with before! I have been an AIDS educator to many youth before and yeah it is that bad, LITERALLY!!!! There is something about knowing you are the "only one" for that person that makes it beautiful. Plus if you are religious in any way, it is a sin. It is human nature to have strong sexual desires to be with someone you really love, but I guess it all depends on how you stand on many other aspects in your life! I just know how men look at a woman who has had multiple sex partners, they are looked at as a slut, and men well...... they are looked at like a STUD! I think whatever you decide for yourself is the best, don't let anyone sway you one way or another! __________________ "I don't want to know emptiness, take me down to the water wanna be baptized in your love far away from the lonliness, take my heart and wash away the fear let me be baptized in your love" ~Lenny Kravitz "Baptized"

02-17-2003, 10:01 PM	#9
Tremontichik006 USER INFO » Status: INK'ed Posts: 817 Joined: Jan 2003 Currently: Offline	i completly agree with u matt, i wouldnt want the guy i marry to know that i didnt wait for him either... __________________ The sun shines and I cant avoid the light I think Im holding on to life too tight Ashes to ashes and dust to dust Sometimes I feel like giving up yeah I said sometimes I feel like giving up

02-17-2003, 10:04 PM	#11
Wylde-Tremonti USER INFO » Status: Said Eyes Posts: 4,357 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Quote: Originally posted by Lechium <b>Isnt that insulting for woment to be though of as "spoiled goods" and such just because they are not virgins? That's archaic (sp?). Turning down a good girl (or guy for that matter) just because she (he) had slept with someone else beforehand is just dumb, cuz you cant be passing on someone truly good. You should learn not to look back. Past is past. </b> Are You directing that at me?.....i never said i wouldn't date someone who had sex....I mean I'm not gonna judge someone they did somethin i don't believe in.... __________________ NOT OF THIS WORLD "See to it that no-one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ." Colossians 2:8 My Solo Project's Myspace: Tongues Of Fire Jesus + Guitars = Life

02-17-2003, 10:06 PM	#13
JulieCitySlicker USER INFO » Status: Taken Higher Posts: 15,310 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	I voted no cuz I'm waiting till I'm married That shows your true commitment to the one that you marry, I don't like leftovers I want a package that is just for me and has not been used by someone else first:P Plus it is the way God intented sex to be...with a married couple. __________________ Oh I'm a wandering soul I'm still walking the line that leads me home alone All I know I still got mountains to climb on my own Enough To Let Me Go-Switchfoot

02-17-2003, 10:07 PM	#14
creedfan47a USER INFO » Status: Brother of Mine Posts: 6,507 Joined: Nov 2002 Currently: Offline	YAY Julie! My words exactly! __________________ Married my man in November 2004 ...

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