They didn't become "larger than life" because their lead singer killed themselves. It was because their music influenced so many people, partially because it was different. Their music spoke to a generation, much like the Beatles, Zepplin, Doors, or Van Halen. Kurt was respected and loved when he was alive, and respected and loved after he died.
And, we don't have to start hating you because of this post. We already hate you.
H-D