in my family (on my dad's side, all of whom lives in town), to combat the commercial aspect Dogstar mentioned, we draw names at Thanksgiving time, and we have to buy a gift for that person between $10-$40... nothing else is "mandatory", so it helps my Granny so she doesn't have to buy gifts for all 11 of us, compared to my family of 5 buying gifts for 7
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