CreedFeed Community - God! I hate myself!

This whole house ordeal is causing all kinds of conflict in my family! My roommate typed up am email about everything from her and my perspective about the house and everything,and here is my brother response to it!
My life sucks so bad right now!!!

Hi Julie,

Mom just showed me the Email that Melody sent her and I am left speechless. First of all she didn't fool anyone by typing all of that and putting your name on it too. Perhaps you agreed to put your name on it but I know that it was all her words. Her own dirty, disrespectful and terribly uninformend words.I still can't believe all that she has said.

The last thing I knew mom was encouraging you to sell the house and was respecting your choices. I feel that Melody is an outsider to our family who doesn't even have a tiny faint of a hint of anything about our family. With all that she does not know or understand she is not one who should be giving advice. She has some nerve to tell mom that she needs to stop being a mommy to you. She makes it sound like mom is so oppresive to you. We know that you can take care of yourself. When you call and ask for advice we give it to you but we have never forced our will upon you.

I still CANNOT believe how much she dogged on mom directly to her. She doesn't have a clue. She is showing her youth, inexperience and naivity. I would NEVER in my life EVER tell someone's mom that she needs to be more encouraging and applaud your children's efforts. Even if there were a shred of truth to her accusations that shows poor taste. If she knew mom at all and knew how selfless she has been over the years, she would not have said such ludicrous baseless things. She says that she encourages you, supports you and looks out for your best interest. If her last Email is any indicator... NONE of that is true at all. I am very disappointed and appauled.

When I first heard that she was moving in I was glad and thought that she was going to be a source of encouragement. But now it is clear that she keeps you discouraged and instigates frustration in your life. I'm sure she is helpful in a lot of other ways and I'm not just out to speak against her. But I am disappointed that you are being so influenced by her when she isn't even paying rent.

From Melody's description of the house I would never believe that she has visited a third world country and seen how most of the world lives. Dad comes to visit and says that you don't have it so bad. Yes, I know that there are quite a few projects for that house. I am not going to argue that it needs a lot of work. But it is not the pile of junk that Melody is allowing you to believe it is. I lived there and I know that you are living in a decent house. It is of course a good time to sell it if you are wanting something with less upkeep but when you decided to stay behind when I moved away you decided to live there until the house sells. I offered to stay there until it sold.

I know that you are too good of a person to abandon the house before it sells because you know that it would become a financial burden for the rest of the family or would damage Kristy's credit. You were raised too well to do such a thing and your family is too important to you. I don't know who is influencing you to abandon Kristy like that but I know that it is not you alone.The house will sell and for a good price because it is a decent house in a good neighborhood. I suggest that you watch some of those home renovation shows to see what really bad homes look like and the nice people that live in them.

Julie you are my sister and I will always love you. No matter how good of a friend Melody has become, remember that your family will always be there for you even when friends move away. Moving out of that house before it is sold will hurt your family which is the only group of people you can really count on. You don't really have it that bad. The government pays your house payment and your utilities. You have a job and your house has every modern convenience. There are very few people who work at a hotel but have Dish Network, DSL, new stove, nice TV, DVD, VCR, new washer and dryer, new furniture. How much of that is being lent by your family? Have we done you wrong? Please allow me to be the first person this week to encourage you Julie. The Lord has blessed you abundantly. I work with a lady that works three jobs to make ends meet. When it seems frustrating that you have to work all the time (and I know that feeling) just know that you don't have it that bad.

I know that Melody is not a bad person and I know that she has good intentions. She has been a good friend to me and you. I just don't think she knows enough about any aspect of this situation to give you advice or tell you how terrible your mother is. The woman who fell in love with you the first time she saw you and has worked hard for decades scraping pennies so that we would have a decent life. I am proud of my mother, and that is why I take it personally when someone tells her how to be a better mother.

Please Julie, think and pray about this by yourself. Please do the right thing and stay in that house until it sells. If not mom will have to just keep paying it on her credit card. You know that no one in our family is rich and no one could afford an additional house payment. We will help you sell that house. We will be down there helping you move. You are always going to have the money to pay for it. Don't just give up because the situation isn't ideal. I don't believe that your living conditions will improve much. The money you pay for that house is less than the rent of a nice apartment.

I need to leave for work but please don't get discouraged Julie. Seek advice from many parties for a balanced view. I'm praying for you.

Love ya Julie!